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Carrie Kills A Man: A Memoir

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Because if you do, then the Carries of the future, their families and their friends will understand that being trans offers possibility and pleasure, not pain or punishment.

Carrie Marshall's constant need to tell me that "women should dress for the age they are, not the age they want to be" started to really piss me off! Carrie Kills A Man* is about growing up in a world that doesn't want you, and about how it feels to throw a hand grenade into a perfect life. So far it’s been nominated for Discover Book of the Year in the 2023 British Book Awards, chosen as Book of the Week by Damian Barr’s Literary Salon, picked as one of The Scotsman’s Books of the Year in 2022 and had various nice things said about it in print and online. It’s about growing up weird, escaping into pop music and trying to hold things together until you can’t hold them any longer – and what happens when you have to hurl a hand grenade into the middle of an apparently perfect life.It’s the story of how a tattooed transgender rock singer killed a depressed suburban dad, and of the lessons you learn when you renounce all your privilege and power. At first I wasn’t sure about whether being funny was appropriate, but I think it’s important because there’s a poisonous narrative of trans people and the wider community as militant, humourless, thought-policing snowflakes when the reality is completely different. By the end I felt such joy and pride for Carrie (though I don’t know her, her words paint her life so vividly) tinged with such anger, frustration and sadness about the hostility trans people face in the world but especially the UK. This book is a must read for everyone but especially for all the facts, figures and waiting times about Trans healthcare.

It’s been really interesting and a little bit strange, especially with some of the more difficult memories: you’re taking things that used to cause you great shame and sometimes pain and putting them out there for others to see and potentially judge you for. It is hard to believe and sickly tragic that 50 years after Walk On the Wild Side that this book has to be written.Carrie's stories about her early fashion mishaps had me roaring with laughter - 'bondage potato' literally had me weeping, and chuckling hours later. But unfortunately for me, coming out coincided with the beginning of a huge pushback against trans people, especially in the UK and Scottish press and on social media.

And if you’d like to listen to it rather than read it, it’s available as an audiobook – narrated by me! The organisation I'm raising money for with the trans rights readathon is Scottish Trans Alliance: if you would like to donate, you can do so here https://www. You touch on a lot of lessons throughout your life, whether through coming out, fashion choices, friendships – what would you say the most important lessons you’ve learned have been? Most of all, I hope people will understand that we’re not an issue, an ideology or a fad; we’re just ordinary people who’d really appreciate decent healthcare and snacks.I then went to paisley book festival and saw Carrie speak about the book and fell in love with her and how funny she was in person and not just on the page. Written with so much heart, honesty and vulnerability, Carrie Marshall sets out to tell her own trans journey and somehow manages to describe everyone's. For my kids and their peers, whether you’re gay or trans or non-binary is probably the least interesting thing about you. To calculate the overall star rating and percentage breakdown by star, we don’t use a simple average. Crying tears of joy kind of funny but also ridiculously relatable tales of everyday mishaps kind of funny.

At her best when she is sharp, scathing of the system, of the people of the energy or joyous, big emotions are what Carrie does best in this novel but often cuts off as it is getting good. Because lots of people don’t know any openly trans people, some really bad actors are taking advantage of that. It's a sometimes sad, sometimes laugh-out-loud funny, true account of Carrie's decision to become a woman in her 40s, in Glasgow, and how she did so.I was lucky enough to get my copy and have it signed by Carrie herself at its launch last month and have been really excited to read it since. Carrie Kills A Man is a bit like a Scottish version of Titanic where the boat is my life, the iceberg is me being trans and nobody wants to paint me like one of their French girls. I really hope readers see themselves reflected a little bit, whether that’s in the funnier stuff – I think we sometimes need outsiders’ eyes to remind us of just how weird and funny a lot of the things we take for granted are – or in the bigger picture: you don’t need to be trans to wonder what it’d be like if you decided to reboot your whole life and take a different path.

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